Anger Management – Anticipation Anxiety – Apology – Aspirations – Attentiveness – Attitude – Attributes
Awareness – Bad Habits – Balance – Being Heard – Blame – Brain Facts – Bullying – Calmness – Change –
Character – Cheating – Choices – Clarity – Closed-Mindedness – Comfort Zone – Communication Barriers –
Communication Fear – Compassion – Complacency – Compliments – Composure – Concentration –
Consideration – Constructive Criticism – Critical Thinking Skills – Cultural Communications Styles –
Defensiveness – Defusing an Argument – Delegation – Denial – Desire – Disabilities – Discrimination –
Distractions – Egotism – Embarrassment – Emotional Abuse – Emotions – Employee Retaliation – Endurance –
Entitlement Complex – Envy – Exercise Addiction – Expectations – Experience – Failure – Focus – Forgiveness
– Foundation – Frustration – Generation Gap – Giving – Gratitude – Gullibility – Happiness – Harassment –
Hatred – Helping Children Communicate – Honesty – Humility – Industriousness – Inferiority Complex –
Influence – Insecurity – Intuition – Kindness – Kindness – Laughter – Leadership – Learning Disabilities –
Legacy – Listening Skills – Listening Skills – Logical Fallacies – Loss – Management Skills – Masking –
Meditation – Momentum – Memory Skills – Mental Strength – Motivation – Narcissism – Nervousness –
Nurturing – Opinions – Optimism and Pessimism – Organizational Skills – Overwhelmed – Panic Attacks –
Parent-Child Communication – Passive-Aggressiveness – Patience – Pause – Perfectionism – Personality Types
– Persuasion – Physical Abuse – Positive Discipline – Practice – Predictability – Prejudice – Prejudice –
Preparation – Pressure – Procrastination – Productivity – Quitting – Repetition – Resolutions – Respect –
Responsibility – Sarcasm – Self-Confidence – Self-Control – Self-Doubt – Self-Justification – Self-Reflection –
Self-Reliance – Sense of Humor – Sensitivity – Simplicity – Speech – Speech Impediments – Stability – Success –
Superiority Complex – Survival – Tact – Temptation – The Fear of Losing Control – The Fight or Flight
Syndrome – The Physical Factor – The Pitfalls of Optimism – The Principles of Learning – Thoughtfulness –
Toxic Behaviors – Toxic Emotions – Trust – Truth – Underachievement – Underestimation – Understanding –
Wellness – Whispering – Work Ethic – Workouts – Workplace Communication – Workplace Communication
Definition: Emotions are strong feelings deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships.
Symptoms: Sports are filled with emotion. Football and boxing, for example, require such emotional thinking that they can devolve into hatred. In soccer, even the emotions of the fans often become dangerous. Most sports, however, require a certain amount of strictly personal emotional involvement to inspire the athlete’s peak performance. Uncontrolled emotions can readily cause poor judgment and tightened muscles, thus making an optimum play in the zone impossible.
Solutions: Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., declares her article, “5 Ways to Get Your Unwanted Emotions Under Control,” that your ability to regulate your emotions affects how you are perceived by the people around you. If the emotion is appropriate to the situation and helps you feel better, there’s no need to worry about changing the way you handle things. Laughing when others are laughing is one example of an appropriate reaction that helps you feel better. Expressing road rage may also make you feel better, but it’s not appropriate or particularly adaptive. While emotions are a vital part of our everyday lives, the study of emotions is not an exact science.Fortunately, you can learn to regulate your emotions well before a provoking situation occurs.
1) Select the situation. Avoid circumstances that trigger unwanted emotions. If you know that you’re most likely to get angry when you’re in a hurry, then don’t leave things for the last minute. If you get out of the house or office ten minutes before you need to, you won’t be bothered so much by pedestrians, cars, or slow elevators.
2) Modify the situation. Perhaps the emotion that you’re trying to reduce is a disappointment. It may be that you are always hoping to serve the “perfect” meal for friends and family, but invariably something goes wrong because you’ve aimed too high. Modify the situation by finding recipes that are within your range of ability so that you can pull off the meal.
3) Shift your attentional focus. If you constantly feel inferior to the people around you who always look great at the gym, shifting your focus away from them and onto your fellow gym members who pack less punch will help you feel more confident about your own abilities. Focus on what you’re doing, and in the process, you’ll eventually gain some of the strength you desire.
4) Change your thoughts. At the core of our deepest emotions are the beliefs that drive them. You feel sad when you believe you have lost something, anger when you decide that an important goal is thwarted, and happy anticipation when you believe something good is coming your way. By changing your thoughts, you may not be able to change the situation, but you can at least change the way you believe the situation is affecting you. Replace the thoughts that lead to unhappiness with thoughts that lead instead to joy or at least contentment. People with social anxiety disorder may believe that they’ll make fools of themselves in front of others for their social blunders. They can be helped to relax by recognizing that people don’t judge them as harshly as they believe.
5) Change your response. If all else fails, and you can’t avoid, modify, shift your focus, or change your thoughts and that undesirable emotion comes pouring out, the final step in emotion regulation is to get control of your response. Take deep breaths and close your eyes for a few moments in order to calm yourself down.
This 5-step approach is one that you can readily adapt to the most characteristic situations that cause you trouble. Knowing your emotional triggers can help you avoid the problems in the first place. Being able to alter your thoughts and reactions will build your confidence in your own ability to cope. With some effort, you’ll be able to turn negatives into positives and gain emotional fulfillment.